December 1, 2014
Happy Post Thanksgiving!! I hope you all had a wonderful Thanksgiving. It’s December 1 and today (at least for me) officially starts my countdown to the holidays. I absolutely love the holiday season. I look forward to this time of year with excitement and so much anticipation. Between the time off from work, spending time with my family, snow days and so much more, I just can’t wait!
As we start off this week, I wanted to share a message about perception. I first heard the saying that “perception is reality” when I was straight out of college and working as an assistant at one of my first full-time jobs. I was having a conversation with one of my managers and that was her words of wisdom for me as I started my career.
I never really liked the meaning behind that statement. Just because you perceive something about someone or a situation, doesn’t make it reality. What drives me even crazier about this statement is that sometimes we allow peoples perceptions of us to become our reality and that’s where I have a PROBLEM.
I have been dealing with a professional situation where I know someone felt a certain way about me for whatever reason and I was letting it really bother me in a big way. You ever have that one person that can just take you to a bad place sometimes? I mean it was really messing with my head. Whenever I would try and brush it off, I found myself sink into this weird space of insecurity and assessing whether or not there’s validity to that persons perception of me. (P.S. I am a very confident person and the fact that this one person was making me doubt myself was really driving me crazy).
I was talking to my husband about this situation and he said to me “why are you seeking validation from this person” and I never looked at it that way, but in a weird way I was seeking validation, as HARD as it is for me to admit that. But admitting that has actually helped me to LET IT GO.
I am so glad that I had this AHA moment after talking to my husband. I felt like a weight was lifted off my shoulder. I spent the past few months wasting a lot of unnecessary energy on something that I can’t change. I can’t change someone’s perception of me and nor do I want to.
I am confident in ME and I love ME and I will never let someone else make me think differently about who I am and the work that I do. I can confidently say that I have so moved on from that situation and I’m in a much better place.
As you start this week, remember that you create the reality for yourself. Don’t ever let someone’s opinion of you dim the light within you. Perception is not always reality at all.
How was your Thanksgiving? How do you feel about the statement “perception is reality”?